Self-talk - The Power of Words

We all do that, right? Talking to ourselves, questioning our choices, sometimes seeking our approval. Studies show that 96 percent of adults talk to themselves (25 percent do it loudly)! Self-talk can be helpful in self-analysis, and it allows us to detach ourselves. On the train, on my way to work, during evening walks with my dog, while making my favorite aalo-tikka dinner, in my shower, I constantly mutter to myself.

Recently I realized that our internal dialogue can be a double-edged sword with the power vested in words playing the villain/hero. Our brain tends to attract more negative thoughts, from the past or mere imagination, when we feed negativity. This is why we feel more depressed, angry, or upset on a bad day. By nourishing ourselves with positivity, we can change the game, but we have to be aware of our thoughts and the internal dialogue that we have.

And to achieve the most effective results with the internal dialogue, I needed something simple, an idea I could apply in my everyday life. I came up with the following list of things to consciously incorporate into my routine.

1. Choice of words

The power of words is real! A simple shift in the choice of words can alter the whole situation we are in.

When I feel lost or confused, I used to think “I’m stuck” which put me in a never-ending loop of confusion. After switching my words to “I’ve done this much and now I need to figure out what’s next”, the change has been immense. In addition to saving me from confusion, it also keeps me motivated to take action and find opportunities.

From “I’m not worthy” to “I need to work on this skill” can be a life-changer.

2. Me to the world

This is a perspective shift combined with the power of words. Rather than looking outwards from myself, I chose to view the world from a straighter, simpler perspective. As opposed of thinking about what the world thinks of me, I ask myself, “What do I think of this situation?” “Do I identify with that person?” “Does it matter so much to me?” This shift in perspective with the right words enabled me to stay true to my beliefs and values.

Self-talk and the ability to have an internal dialogue are blessings if we are kind to ourselves. Be conscious, be mindful, and you’ll be the happiest version of yourself.