Manav says he is confused
- Anagha Menon
- Apr 2, 2023
- 2 min read
"She says I am not good enough. It's easy to say don't let others get into your head. But we're so close. I trust her, I value her. Maybe that's why it bothers me." This is a very deep thing to say. Manav was disturbed and confused when he told me about this.
How often do we acknowledge the fact that we love and trust the people who affect our well-being at some level? Manav's was an honest confession. Oftentimes, we know our partner is not right for us but we continue to feel for them and take validation from them. Have you ever wondered why!
Rather than picking fights and cribbing about the partner, is it not better to leave the relationship? Fixing someone else or engineering them to suit your needs is impossible. And, on a personal level, I do not believe that changing the other person is not something you want in a relationship. A good relationship should keep you safe and warm.
So how should you approach complicated situations like Manav's?
Analyse : There definitely is a reason why you continue the relationship despite hard times
Write : Write everything that comes to your mind - the positive and the bad. Writing is a great way to categorize and organize shattered thoughts.
Communicate: Tell your partner that you love yourself and they should let you be you. Tell your partner why you want to be in this relationship, and what makes you think otherwise. In case something bothers you, tell your partner politely and decently.
Talk to an expert : You and your partner or just you can choose professional help fixing relationship troubles.
Remember, you need not compromise yourself or lose yourself in any relationship. If there is no space for both of you in the relationship, it might not be the right place for you.
If your partner is unwilling to talk, or accept and acknowledge your feelings and thoughts, it is time to reanalyse the relationship.
It's possible your partner is stubborn and not considering you, so think about whether it's the right relationship for you if you feel like it.
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